The 4 Main Parenting Styles: How to Find Common Ground With Your Partner

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Fourth Trimester Podcast Episode 179: The 4 Main Parenting Styles: How to Find Common Ground With Your Partner

Most parenting falls into one of four main parenting styles. Do you know what your parenting style is? If you have a partner, is their parenting style the same as yours? You might agree on wanting happy, healthy children, but disagree on how to achieve that shared goal.

Discover the four main parenting styles, how your own upbringing shapes your instincts, and the conversations that can help you turn disagreements into a shared plan. You’ll learn practical questions to ask before conflict hits, how to set boundaries together, and ways to find common ground without needing to agree on every detail.

Dr. Shoshana Bennett is a perinatal psychologist, author, and longtime Fourth Trimester guest. She brings a no-shame approach to helping parents examine familiar patterns, separate shared values from tactics, and build a plan they can revisit and repair.

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Shoshana Bennett, Ph.D.

“It helps to figure out what your styles are. The goal is to come to as much common ground as you can and then stick to it.”
Dr. Shoshana Bennett

What You Will Learn

  • The difference between authoritative, authoritarian, permissive, and uninvolved parenting
  • How your own upbringing shapes your parenting instincts
  • Questions to ask before a difficult parenting moment
  • How to separate shared values from the tactics you use in the moment
  • Why consistency and repair matter more than identical parenting

Full Show Notes With Chapters

  1. Parenting as a Team – 00:00
  2. Four Parenting Styles – 08:37
  3. Questions That Build Common Ground – 16:35
  4. When Parenting Styles Clash – 25:31
  5. Support for Lasting Change – 30:32

Selected links

Guest Dr. Shoshana Bennett | Instagram | LinkedIn

Resources mentioned APA Parenting Styles | Becoming the Parent You Want to Be by Laura Davis and Janis Keyser

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Dr Shosh’s other episodes The Mental Load of Parenting | Breastfeeding With Confidence While Protecting Your Mental Health | Transition to Grandparenthood with Confidence | When Perimenopause And Postpartum Overlap with Dr. Shosh Bennett | Intimacy After Baby in a Way That Feels Right for You with Dr Shosh | The Myths Of Motherhood

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